Aggie Wants to Know #1
What are the things you want them to know about life after the wedding?
(A serious topic Aggie ha..ehehehe)
I must admit the first 6 months was all about adjusting and compromise. But slowly we have mastered each other habits & quirks that BIG fights turned into petty fights and married life is actually blissful and truly happy right now at 18 months of marriage.
I learned :
- That small things like electric fans & sleeping habits makes a difference in our sleeping arrangement. Ozzy & I need our electric fans; hubby can’t stand one. So we have 2 separate beds.
- Husbands depend/rely/expect wives to pick up after them so after 6 months of nagging I just DO it and hope hubby sees me and does his part as well (are you reading this CHI?). You” realize that you can only change yourself; never try to change your partner.
- As a Work-at-Home-Mom I began to resent HIM going out on weekends with friends while Ozzy & I stay at home all the time; I cannot change that fact because it is who he is; so after a lot of petty fights we have compromised on curfew & frequency of night outs.
- That sometimes it IS better to sleep it off; battling it out in the wee hours of the morning just so we don’t sleep mad at each other doesn’t really make things better.
- Petty fights, arguments and misunderstanding in marriage is OK. It’s even healthy. You learn about each other. The important thing is that the couple keeps on trying to make the marriage work and try hard get it right.
- Getting my way ALL the time is not really as important as finding a way to work it out together.
- Most especially, after marriage I learned the virtues of trust, hope & love. Read more about it here when we celebrated our 1st year together.
I want my son/children to know:
- That when you decide to marry that ‘special’ person make sure you truly know who this person is. His weaknesses & his strengths because marriage is no joke. You cannot just say, ooopss I made a mistake, next! You have to WORK to make the marriage “work”. And divorce is not legal in the Philippines. Hehehe
- For my son, he is the guy, provide for your family. Work hard and don’t ever lay a hand on your wife and children.
- Respect your wife. Tell her she’s the most beautiful girl always.
- Respect the family of the one your marrying because they are your family too.
- Also, be there for your family. Not only financially but physically. Work is important but at the end of the day, family time and creating memories together is what counts.